Active people dating
If you’ve ever created an online dating profile for yourself, you know that it only scratches the surface of what you’re like.
No profile, no matter how well-written, could ever hope to capture the full extent of your personality.
Unfortunately, when you’re reading the profiles of other people, it’s easy to forget that this rule applies to them, too.
You know that what you’re seeing isn’t an accurate representation of them, but it doesn’t stop you from judging them on it anyway.
The promise of making it easier to find your “ideal” companion by letting you add filters to hone in on specific requirements has actually had the opposite effect, diminishing your pool to the point it becomes almost impossible to find anyone!
You’ve just met someone who is good at telling you what you want to hear.
In the US, online dating is now the second most common way for heterosexual couples to meet (behind introductions through friends). After millions of years of human evolution, and thousands of years of the development of human society, humans had settled on the idea that in-person interactions through fun, face-to-face social activities were the best way to meet new people.
And then along came online dating to blow that idea away.
Nobody’s profile really represents what they’re like in real life.
And as a result, you will either underestimate them – and dismiss someone who could be a good match – or else overestimate them and then be disappointed when you meet in person.