Advice dating someone going through divorce
This version of the story could play out in various ways, but most likely it will keep you locked in place.
Even if you find your boyfriend to be completely trustworthy going forward, you might carry the pain of this early time into your future, along with the belief that his not pursuing his divorce in the way you wanted reflected some deficiency in his love for you and/or deficiency in his moral compass.
Kimberly Turtenwald began writing professionally in 2000.
She has written content for various websites, including Lights 2 You, Online Consultation, Corpus Personal Injury and more.
I wish I knew how to heal from a betrayal of trust in a relationship.
Dear Anonymous, There are several ways to look at this situation, and I want to help you consider a couple of them so that you can see these events differently.
If he means enough to you to have a relationship with him, you have to be willing to wait until he is comfortable.
Remind yourself that he will need to communicate with his wife for the sake of the children if they have children together.
We also fought a lot about how much his wife should be part of our lives: I didn’t want her to continue to contact him about random casual things given that they were separated and childless, but he felt I was too harsh and refused to budge for many months.Eventually he apologized and explained that he had been afraid of losing me, and I forgave him.Two years later, we are still together but it’s been an incredibly exhausting struggle to get him to take the steps necessary for the divorce.Now that the divorce is surely going to be concluded in the coming six months, I am flooded with feelings of doubt about the relationship because it feels like we never really healed from that initial breach of trust, and I am afraid of what all the subsequent broken promises might reveal about our compatibility.He has asked me to give him a second chance and shown much remorse.