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On the other hand, going on the offensive often escalates the conflict or puts us in the position of trying to change another person. Her father was an alcoholic and her parents were divorced when she was 17.One sign of both high self-esteem and high EQ is the absence of either of these defensive responses. Her mother probably tried to deal with her children's unhappiness by saying things like "Don't think so much" and "Don't look so sad." Her mother probably felt responsible and powerless to help them feel better.Besides worrying about my laptop getting stolen, I am now also worried about traveling with someone who invalidates me. They started talking about some of their friends, smiling and laughing. I wondered how the three adults could stand there and laugh while that boy stood there alone, troubled now not only about school but also because no one was interested in his troubles. As long as you are active, you can't feel your emotional pain. " She said, "Because I don't want you to think so much." Then I was quiet for a moment.All invalidation is a form of psychological attack. Meanwhile all three of them completely ignored the boy. This made her very uncomfortable and she said, "Don't look so serious." I said, "Why not?Or it may eventually isolate them from their feelings, with a resulting loss of major part of their natural intelligence. Most of them are so insidious that we don't even know what is happening. Sometimes the only way to get past a bad thing is to forget it and move on. Apparently Ive been going at it all wrong and instead of helping my children Ive been invalidating their feelings to the point that one is cutting and suicidal and the other cant wait to get as far away from me as possible. Ive seen the heartbreaking pics all over tumblr and the internet of kids with blades and bleeding legs and arms and I wonder if theres a link to social media and cutting? I asked if he was able to say directly that he is jealous. Later this same person said she felt disrespected when he walks in front of her.We know that something doesn't feel good, but we sometimes can't put our finger on it. Oh yeah and my favorite because it's served me well: Don't take everything personally. It would seem the only course of action now is to keep my mouth shut lest I make everything worse, let the therapist do all the talking, and keep buying Neosporin. I asked what she thought he might say if she said, "I feel a little disrespected when you walk in front of me." She said he would probably say, "That is totally absurd!
I see that they are not going to do anything to help prevent what it is that I am worried about. That is ridiculous (nonsense, totally absurd, etc.) I was only kidding. She gave a warm hello to the couple, then asked the boy, "How's school, mate? What's worse is that when he gave them a golden opportunity to understand him and his world, he was completely invalidated, then completely ignored. She seemed as athletic as the father, which makes sense of course. Again I feel guilty because I did not say anything. I say this one incident says a lot about their parenting style and about how children are psychologically invalidated every day. are among the most self-destructive or socially destructive adults. Last night I went to visit someone while she was at work. Then she seemed to notice my mood and asked me what I was thinking.They were taught at an early age that their interpretations of and feelings about the things around them were bad and wrong. So I suppose they think they can tell someone how to feel and, then like magic, that will work, too.They learned that certain feelings weren't allowed. Now I am wondering,..someone says, "Don't think so much," how does one do that? Examples of such relationships are parent/child, teacher/child, spiritual leader/follower, boss/employee, husband/wife. This is especially possible when one person has long-term power or influence over another.