Dating a broke man
Too much money makes me uncomfortable, but no money makes me frustrated. I don’t want someone who spends his days sitting on the couch smoking weed and watching sports while bemoaning his lack of funds. I don’t want to be with any more guys who make less money than I do. I’m into doing so inexpensively, but if you can’t even cover your own rent… If he’s broke in his 30s, I worry about his motivation in all areas.
I can’t relate to a guy who has tons of nice things. I take a guy’s lack of money in his adult years as a serious indication of problems in other areas.
Those moments are there to show them what they’ve transformed into.
In those moments they don’t need to pretend that they are someone else.
I’m not a gold digger — not one little bit — I’m just sick of this generation of guys, many of whom just can’t seem to get their act together. He doesn’t have to pay for everything, but he should at least cover his half. In fact, I usually prefer it, because I have independence and commitment issues. At the same time, I don’t want to have to pay for both of us all the time. I don’t equate your worth with the size of your paycheck, but you have to HAVE a paycheck.
I don’t think it’s too much to ask for a dude who has a car, a job, and a place to live. It’s depressing dating someone who makes less than I do who has no desire to up his game. We might not be established and working our dreams jobs quite yet, but we should be paying our bills like adults and living outside of our childhood homes. I don’t mind if we switch off, but it should be equal. I’m not sitting on the couch every night because he’s too broke to do anything. There’s no excuse at this point in life for you to be unemployed, unless you just lost both your legs in a terrible freak accident or something. I worked hard, improved my pay, and now I’m living fairly comfortably.
And most important, tell him that you will be there no matter what happens to give him a hand of salvation and to be his support in any rough days that will come.
When a man is broken, he won’t feel like hanging out with his friends.
If you try hard to win him over, maybe he will make you the happiest woman on earth. He will always have that dose of caution because he went through so much shit in his life. The thing is he just needs to bring back that faith in life and people again, and let others make his life richer. Loving a man like this can be tough but if your feelings are sincere, there is nothing that can stop you getting the best out of him.
He wants us to know that he feels better alone and that he needs some time to arrange things in his head. I am not saying it will be easy, but at least you will know that one man was depending on you and that you saved him from the demons inside him. And he would appreciate it so much if you could be his biggest support in his life journey. That only means that a man like that went through more things than the others.
And what you need to do in this situation is to let him go. Let’s face it—he just met you, and he thinks you are the same as the others. And what he craves the most is a woman who will show him that after it all, he can be the old him—the UNBREAKABLE ONE!
What you can do in a situation like this is to talk to him.
Tell him that if he drinks alcohol, his problems won’t vanish.