Dating an older man how old is too old
As anybody who’s ever had to play "What are your top five favorite movies? A fantastic woman several years my senior recently told me I should only date older men, because even though I’m 28, "being in your twenties is a form of functional retardation." I think there’s a grain of truth there, if only because I don’t know anybody who looks back and thinks, "Man, how awesome was I in my twenties?" except for aging pageant queens and John Mellencamp. I know this because I once worked with a 42-year-old man who was skipping his daughter’s birthday because "she’ll have one every year, but you never know when they’re going to shut down Burning Man for good."True, another factor is judgment from other people, who may see a 44-year-old going to dinner with a 25-year-old and make judgments about which one of them is drowning in student loan debt.I contend that as long as nobody is being willfully creepy (I see you, guys in Ferrari hats), this kind of limitation is mega lame.
We still live in an age where men get to age like credenzas, and women like unrefrigerated dairy.The only problem I’ve had with dating outside of my age range is when the other person has been too aware of it.Either he was self-conscious about dating a younger lady, or he tried to pay for everything because he thought I expected it.Being predatory is just plain gross on either side of the equation, either from young people looking to trade sex for free Hulu Plus, or old people suffering conversation with somebody who for the relative elasticity of their genitals.I don’t have to tell you that the only people who get to decide whether you’re enjoying each other as people are you and your dinner companion.