Dating customs in germany
Language tandem success Rebecca, 33, from San Francisco, has been in Berlin for six years.Like Trish, she finds men in the capital sometimes have “Peter Pan syndrome” but looking back, she says, overall it was a positive experience.It’s hard out there when it comes to dating, but it’s not all doom and gloom: that’s the picture The Local found as we investigated what it’s like for internationals forming relationships in Germany, whether it’s hook-ups, marriage or lasting friendships. Lost in translation For Trish, a Los Angeles native, Berlin is like “Never Never Land” when it comes to romance.There are 20.5 million single people in Germany, with many looking for love. “People move here for different reasons,” the 28-year-old tells The Local. This Berlin lifestyle of freedom and openness I think makes it difficult to date here.” Trish has spent time in other German cities, including Münster, North Rhine-Westphalia, which she says is a “much easier” place than Berlin to date successfully because it's smaller in size.Barbara, who’s from South Africa but has lived in Germany for 20 years, says she’s tried online dating but didn’t have much success, often finding her inbox filled with men from far away countries which isn’t what she’s looking for. “Partly because I know a number of single men but none of them make any effort to have a relationship in any way, even though I think we get on well." “I think men are too comfortable these days.” Barbara says a great point about Frankfurt is that it’s a good place to be social to meet friends.She advises people who are new to the country to get out and join cultural associations.Around 9.6 percent of the population is browsing for dates – or casual sex – on apps, as well as a host of other online sites. When it comes to the dates she’s had, Trish has used Bumble – the app which allows women to make the first move – but it’s not been such a great experience for her.We wanted to find out how internationals in Germany are getting on in their quest to build relationships. One match lied about his height, another had a “really high voice” when they met, and the third man put her off using the app for a while.
She says in Munich a guy she used to date would offer to pick her up and open the door of his car for her.
“I’m hopeful that the relationship will go somewhere,” she says.
'650 matches on Tinder and nothing has worked out' For Gi, a content marketing manager who works at a start-up, serious dating is near impossible in Berlin, although she says “sex is easy to find” if you’re looking for casual hook-ups.
“He was very offended and thought I was insulting his educational background,” she says.
"I find little things like that are very difficult.” A positive that Trish has found from her dating adventures is the friendships that have formed – even with potential romantic partners. “We had a short romance and now we’re good friends,” she says.