Dating divorce practice
He ignored the red flags in his relationships because he always wanted to see the best in people.
He took on the work of trying to solve issues that were never his to begin with.
Until his second wife racked up huge amounts of debt and then deserted him with it.
By the time we met, EJ was financially strapped, his relationship with his kids was in trouble, and he doubted he could trust a woman ever again.
The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.”Childhood books, movies, and cartoons promise a certain “happily ever after.” Well-meaning parents and caregivers promise a happy and idyllic future. But we are adjusting to new rules in today’s world. Divorce is more common; therefore, more people are divorced and dating.
We have included a rainbow of additional life options beyond traditional heterosexual marriage and divorce. We live in a culture where polyamory is a movement and polygamy is displayed on TV as a part of everyday life.
“EJ” was always the guy people counted on—smart, driven, loyal. Needless to say he was devastated when his first marriage turned into a mess.
That included who our future mates may be and what they’d look like, and our role in caring for our imaginary children.
Others fantasized about a life partner or a career while children and a family were not on the agenda.
Today, EJ has been happily married to his third wife for more than ten years and has a great relationship with his kids and growing group of grandchildren.
It’s a common tragedy that I’ve seen in my practice for the last 28 years.