Dating recovering alcoholic first year
Just because you're sober doesn't mean a relative won't pass away in the first year or that you won't lose your job in the first year. Jay- I didn't date in my first year, I needed some time to work on myself.I just went out on my first date about 2 weeks ago and it was great.Looking back, I was sort of following that rule, but I should have done it much sooner.I think it depends on the person and how you are doing in your recovery.
I personally never agreed with some of the rules and suggestions.Rosalyn Dischiavo, a sexologist and licensed addiction counselor, has a cheerier outlook: “There is another, more optimistic truth about love in early sobriety: it shows that you are healing. Date like it's 1955, whether it's with someone new, or with your current partner or spouse. Belisa Vranich—a clinical psychologist specializing in sex and relationships—all agree that there is no reason why addicts and alcoholics shouldn’t be dating other addicts and alcoholics.Go to the movies, take a walk in the park, go skiing together, but slow down and give the intimacy a chance to develop. According to Milrod, the most important foundation is simply that “sobriety needs to be a priority.But when he finally entered the realm of sober dating, it was with a good chunk of sobriety under his belt, a strong program and a great relationship with his sponsor.Did that mean he immediately dated “appropriately” and “healthily”? “I spent five years dating messed up speed freaks and growing pot for a living.