Dating women 4 kids
Be realistic about what things will look like with kids in your life.
I love being a stepmom and I am grateful for my stepkids every single day, but straight up, they flipped every single aspect of my life upside down, in ways that not everyone would be okay with! Whether you like it or not, in most cases, this woman will play a role in your life. The way she acts, reacts and approaches parenting/co-parenting, WILL affect you.
Your life will be dictated by a custody schedule, extra-curricular schedules, tantrums, dance recitals, the details of a separation agreement… Holidays will be coordinated around the legal agreement, vacations will be coordinated around the custody schedule, your nights will most likely be consumed by extra-curricular activities and homework.
There can be a major transition period – just know it does pass – it does get better!
She isn’t going anywhere and the kids aren’t going anywhere either.
When you hook up with a man with kids, you’re essentially getting a package deal. It’s something you REALLY need to wrap your head around!
This week, I had someone ask if I have any blog posts with advice for women dating a man with kids. Mostly because I didn’t start writing this blog until after my husband and I got married (and I subsequently found myself sitting on the bathroom floor, bawling my eyes out, thinking about what would happen if I got in the car and drove far, far away …. well kind of) If you’ve been following for a while, you know the story about that night on bathroom floor – it’s what inspired me to start this platform in the first place. Yes, I know that’s the obvious point, but honey I REALLY want you to think about what that means.
Anyways, I told this girl that while I didn’t have anything written, I’d be happy to whip something up for her, because THERE IS a lot that a woman in this position should consider. I know men with kids are pretty sexy – and it’s great to see those father figures doing their thing…