Rules for dating a black man
Microaggressions are comments or actions that unintentionally alienate or demean a marginalized person or group.These include, but are not limited to, saying things such as “You’re [insert positive adjective] for a black girl! ”These may seem harmless to some, but they’re actually symptoms of deeper problems rooted in systematic oppressions that black women face daily.We’ve recently offered suggestions on how people of color can approach their white partner on the issue of race.
”Against my better judgment, I assumed that the wingman just wasn’t very good at his job and started talking to his friend anyway.
While it may be hard for two people from widely different intersections of race and gender to understand each other, it’s not impossible once the more privileged party (in this case, the white guy) is able to recognize their shortcomings and how the intersections of race and gender affect every aspect of a black woman’s life.
A white man must be willing to work toward a better understanding of how race and gender intersect differently for everyone, and he must also be prepared to speak out against the injustices that their partners will endure.
To be blunt: White guys, you often approach black women in a harmful way.
Most white men are unaware of the microaggressions towards their black partner that make their chances for a second date slim to none.