White men thoughts on dating black women
I recognize that people have a preference when it comes to looks, but to only seek a person from one race amidst a history of a structural power division should not be exempt from arguments of internalized racism and self-hate.When I hear a non-black person say they are not attracted to black women “as a personal preference” it is hard not to take this as a personal blow and an attack on my race at large.When we sit around with friends and lament that “there are no black men around,” maybe we should be saying “there are no black men around who are attracted to us.” Again, something empowering about being rejected by your own race.The number of dating sites matching white men with black women seems unnerving to me.How can one possibly answer whether black men are more or less appreciative of black women, without interviewing thousands of black men and women?What I do know is that, as black women, we have to convince ourselves that we are beautiful 10 times before we even leave the house.
asking young black boys what kind of girl they’re looking for (“light skin, curly hair, big ass”), triggering feelings of inadequacy and a grotesque reminder of what we have to deal with on a daily basis.
We are constantly in a pattern of uplifting ourselves, boosting ourselves, complimenting ourselves and it can become exhausting.
“#Queen #Blessed #Melanin Magic.” If we’re not going to say it, who will?
The first blogger is a beautiful woman who owns a head wrap line (I have purchased three.
No need to discuss the shipping costs from America to the UK). Literally another beautiful head wrap line owner, whose artistry is magnificent.