Why is dating after divorce so hard
In the beginning, I obsessed over why it was happening and what I could do to stop the divorce.
As time went on I would obsess over what he was doing, who he was doing it with and the fact that he had gotten away with abandoning his children and wife with no recourse.
There is “clean pain” and “dirty pain.”Clean pain, is the pain that comes with living life in general.
The loss of a loved one, having a serious illness, being in an abusive relationship and so forth.
We have been divorced for 2 years and although it saddens me that my family has been broken apart, I am happy that my ex and I have have managed to be civil enough to make it okay for the kids.
Here is what I have found: For single men the options are plentiful. It seems that the breakdown of available women fall into the following categories: 1.
Sure it will start with great sex and they will make you feel “alive” and young but proceed with caution.
They will want to grow old with you and have an age appropriate relationship with you.
From my experience there are few men who are looking to date their contemporaries.
We all, at some time or another experience this kind of pain.
Dirty pain, is pathological pain and comes from what we tell ourselves about situations we find ourselves in.